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What I learnt from a 4 yrs old gratitude list?

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My colleague Kaja ( who helps me bring these emails to you) has a 4 yr old son.

Sometimes she shares things that he says innocently. I find wisdom in them and that brings a smile on my face. Let me share some that may bring a smile on your face too.

She writes in her gratitude journal every night. Because her son is 4, he does not understand the word “Gratitude”, so she tells him that she writes things that bring a smile on her face.

(That is why he has given me the title of “Boss of all smiles” as my picture is at the back of Stress to Joy Guided Gratitude Journal that she writes in)

So, when she is writing, she also asks him what brings a smile on his face. He comes up with responses like:
  • “Arms to give snuggles,
  • Mouth to show a smile,
  • Eyes to see mother’s smile,
  • Ears to hear sister’s laugh
  • Toys to play with,
  • T.V. to watch,
  • Music to dance to,
  • The sun that wakes me up”.

I thought, hmm, I have done my gratitude journaling for last 14 + yrs but never thought Sun as a blessing. Not only it gives us light and heat, but our existence also would not have been possible without it.

The other time, he said; “My tummy is not hungry because I have this banana.”

It made me realize,  what a blessing it is to have enough food to eat so we don’t feel hungry.

Did you know some 795 million people in the world do not have enough food to lead a healthy active life? That’s about one in nine people on earth. The vast majority of the world’s hungry people live in developing countries. Among which 12.9 percent of the population is undernourished.

According to the USDA, this is not just a problem in the developing world. Even in America, more than 41 million people face hunger, including 13 million children.

You may know that Muslims have recently finished their month of Ramzaan when they fast for 30 days. One of the purposes of fasting is to develop the realization of how important the blessing of food is. And also to develop empathy for people who don’t have it.

Most traditions have some ways of giving thanks for the food.

I grew up saying “Shukar” which means thanks at the end of each meal. Although I write about being grateful for the food in my journal every morning, sometimes I forget at work when I am eating during a meeting or on the go.

Since my colleague has shared this list with me, I have become more cognizant. I have decided to make special efforts to say my thanks every time I eat, even when I eat during a meeting or on the go.

So, what brings smiles on your face?

Would you start asking your kids what brings smiles on their faces that they could be grateful for?

Would you start saying thanks for the food you get every day?

Let me know what you do to keep your focus on things you have rather than things you don’t? Gratitude practice in any form can train your brain to be positive. It can help you be happy and grateful no matter what life presents to you.

PS: If you would like your copy of Stress to Joy Guided gratitude journal to help you start, resume or take your gratitude practice to the next level, you can get it at drrozina.com or Amazon.

Dedicated to your health and happiness,

Dr. Rozina

#1 Best Selling Author, Speaker, and Psychiatrist
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Things that we take for Granted

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One of my patients recently informed that she stopped her gratitude practice. She told me that she got bored. She couldn’t think about things to be grateful for.

Let me share with you a basic comfort of life that I brought up and she had a moment of realization.

She said; “I never realized that I have so many comforts of life that I could be grateful for. I take them for granted because I always had them. Many people don’t. I could see how it would help me to continue this practice that helps me train my mind to be happy and positive”.

So what was that basic comfort; Easy access to a working toilet.

You may say that everybody has it. Well, not always. Recently, a very cute first grader shared this point in class when we were listing things to be grateful for.

She said; “We have three toilets in our home. Two are not working. When my sister goes in the one that is working, she forgets that other people may be waiting.”

Funny? Can you relate? We all may have had some experience of when you couldn’t get access to a working toilet either the flush is not working or something else. How did you react to when you needed to go immediately? Especially if you had diarrhea or incontinence going on.

I grew up in a developing country, and I was fortunate to have a toilet and running water in my household. But, so many poor people didn’t.

When I visited a relative in India, I had to go to an enclosure. It was a little way from home. We needed to carry a pot of water in hands.

When I went to Europe for the first time, I had several experiences. These experiences increased my awareness of this simple comfort, we take for granted.

We took a train on the first day in Spain. When we got off, I felt the urge to go. We looked all over but could not find the signs. Due to the language barrier, we couldn’t find it even though one lady at a store, pointed in a direction and said something.

We kept going in that direction and ended up being outside the station. So we went back inside and when the next train arrived I asked someone who spoke English.

Guess what he said? “There is no public toilet in the station.” He said; “The best option is to find a restaurant about a mile away from where you can use the toilet.”

Oh my God! it was so hard to make to that restaurant. Finally, when I was able to, I felt the deep appreciation of this simple comfort, I have always taken for granted.

Even in London, in a popular marketplace, I had to walk almost a mile to take my daughter to a toilet.

In Paris. I had to pay €1.20 to use the facilities.

Did you ever have a similar experience? Not only in other parts of the world but homeless people even in the US, don’t have access to the simple comforts of life that we take for granted.

So, when you find it difficult to think about things to be grateful for, consider simple things you may have that other people don’t.

Gratitude practice not only brings a positive feeling, but it also has a positive effect on our brains.

If you haven’t started or have stopped your gratitude practice start it or resume it today. Reflect on simple things you may have taken for granted. You will be able to increase your joy and decrease frustration in your life.

In addition, don’t miss out on the simple and practical tools for minimizing stress and maximizing your joy sent right to your email. Sign up today and get an instant download of a 1-minute relaxation exercise for busy people.

Let me know what you found most useful and if you have any questions.

Dedicated to your health and happiness

Dr. Rozina

#1 Best Selling Author, Speaker, and Psychiatrist
www.drrozina.com

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Vision Board Planning

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Pat, a friend, shared her frustration with me; “How can I be confident and affirm so that I have the best job possible when I am receiving only rejections to all my job applications?”

She was trying to recover from her condition and get back to a good job.

Vision board helps her visualize what she wanted in life.

She was having difficulty feeling confident about her ability to achieve her goals.

When Pat faced the above dilemma, I advised her to add a Grateful Achievement and change her vision board to Grateful Vision using advanced gratitude concept. She took a manila folder with two plain sheets of paper pasted/stapled on each side. One side was her Grateful Achievement, and the other side was Grateful Vision.

Before doing this exercise, she was feeling like a total failure. She could not feel the confidence that she could achieve her goals so was having a hard time putting energy in her goal/intention/vision. Using this technique helped her.

The next time I saw her, she had a big smile on her face. Her energy was palpable. She felt confident yet humble.  When she did this as part of her daily practice, her goals remained in front of her, and she kept on taking deliberate steps towards her goal. She was close to achieving success.

I shared the step # 1 in the blog Grateful Achievement. Here, I share step #2, Grateful Visions.

As I mentioned in the previous blog, for visualizing her goals, Pat had made a vision board.

What is a vision board?  

A vision or dream board is a collage or poster that you can make with pictures/images/words – affirmations of one’s dreams and desires, designed to serve as a source of inspiration and motivation and to use the law of attraction to attain goals. It is a potent tool that has been popularized by the documentary ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Burns. The power of the vision board lies in its ability to help people discover and visualize their dreams. When they regularly affirm and visualize as if they have achieved those goals, it increases their chances of achieving them.

What are affirmations and visualizations?

When you say a positive, short statement in the present tense, your intentions—as if you have already achieved them—are called affirmations.

Visualization merely is seeing those things in your mind’s eye as vividly as if they are real, and as if they already happened.

Because your brain is prepared for achieving goals, these affirmations and visualizations are like seeds that you sow in your mind’s field. They provide a trailer to the mind for what you want so it can move toward your desires.

Have you ever felt a little flustered when you turn on the TV and a movie is playing, but you have no idea what it’s about?

Sometimes it is okay, but most of the time your brain takes a few moments to make sense of what is going on in the story. Your mind likes it better when it has some idea. When you check out the name, description, or trailer, your brain gets ready, knows what is coming, and can more thoroughly enjoy the movie. Similarly, before doing anything, if you set an intention and visualize the destination, it gives your brain a framework, a blueprint, and a file folder in which to put the information.

Power of Attraction:

When the documentary ‘The Secret’ came out in 2006, I did not question the main idea, “power of attraction”, because I knew the power of affirmations and visualizations. I liked Bob Proctor’s suggestion in that documentary when he suggested writing affirmations with the prompt, “I am so happy and grateful that I have…[whatever you want, but don’t yet have].”

I tried his suggestion, but I had one little problem. My logical mind could not accept the notion of “Just believe it, even if your mind questions it” as one of the speakers suggested in that documentary. It felt like a lie, and if my mind doesn’t accept what I say, then those words hold no power for me.

How can I believe that I have enough money in my bank account when my bank statement shows otherwise?

How can I think that I can pay the bills when I’m getting collection calls? Just imagine what would happen if you assumed that you had enough money, and you wrote a check despite your bank account not having sufficient funds to cover it. Of course, the check would bounce, and you would have to pay the bank fees.

As I was contemplating the issue, I came across the phrase “Advanced Gratitude” written somewhere, and I had an “aha moment”.  I thought about the fact that I pay rent to live the next month in an apartment, pay for the groceries before taking them home, and write “thanking you in advance” when asking someone for a favor in a letter. What if I give thanks for the things I want before getting them? My mind accepted that.

So, I started writing in my journal, “I offer advanced gratitude that I am or I have…” whatever I wanted. That was my affirmation.

For example, “I offer advanced gratitude that I am happy that my books have made a difference in more than a million people.” Or “I can sketch a book with the stamp: 1 Million Copies Sold.”

I started to see it in my mind’s eye as if it had happened, and it became a powerful visualization for me. Sometimes those things came true for me within days, and sometimes they came true after years, and some have still not come true.

Either they are not right for me or the right time has not come.

This belief is very important to keep the positive benefit of this technique; otherwise, it can be disappointing not to get what you want.  

From a logical viewpoint, I can see that my writing keeps reminding me of my intention and motivates me to keep taking action toward my desired goals. This action combined with intention increases the chances of achieving those objectives.

Just adding the phrase “I offer advanced gratitude” before Bob Proctor’s suggested prompt allowed my logical mind to accept my visualization.

Since then, I have been using this prompt as a part of my daily journal, and I reap the benefits of affirmations and visualizations without my mind questioning it.

You can make your grateful vision by adding the prompt AGF (Advanced Gratitude For). Visualize what you want in life or where you want to be and write it after this prompt. Be specific and see in your mind’s eye how it would feel when you achieve what you want. You may also sketch or paste a picture of it.

I shared what she wrote for her grateful achievement in the previous article. For her grateful visions, she wrote:

I am grateful in advance that I am/I have

  • overcome my condition
  • completed college
  • become a coach
  • am the best mother to my kids

If you use this tool, you will get closer and closer to your success with confidence and humility.

Go ahead make your list of Grateful Visions

 

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How to Transform Your Life

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My friend Sam recently expressed her surprise when I showed her STJ Guided Gratitude Journal, “Oh, I thought this was just a pretty journal with empty lines. I did not know that there are so many instructions and inspirations to transform your life available. It feels like it can help many people like me. I will definitely try it.”  

So let me share what is inside this journal. This journal is a hybrid of book and journal. It consists of seven components as follows.

1.  Reasons behind each prompt:

When you know the “why” of something, it helps to you get motivated to do it. Therefore I have added the explanation and reasons for the practice and each prompt.

 

2. Examples:

I usually ask my patients to share three things they feel grateful for while I am writing their prescriptions. Some people have a hard time initially. Examples make it easier.

Therefore, I will share some examples for each prompt to get you thinking.

 

3. Flexibility to write short or long entry:

Some days, you’re going to be filled with motivation and want to dive deep into your gratitude practice.

And let’s be honest, there’s probably going to be some days when you’re busy with your life and doing that much could feel overwhelming.

This journal gives you the choice of how much you want to journal each day.

If you simply want to do the minimum, that’s perfect!

And on days you want to do more, you have extra space and additional prompts to connect with a sense of gratitude and joy deeply.

 

4. Invitation to doodle:

Do you like to doodle? One person told me that she feels almost guilty for doodling when she “should be” doing work.

New research supports the benefits of doodling and expressing creatively about your life.

Therefore, you will find a sketch/doodle/brain dump/visualize zone on alternate pages of the journal – a blank space without lines.

You may draw something that you are grateful for or something that is your vision/goal. I want you to doodle or color or paste some pictures of it.

This exercise is to make you sketch the floating bubble exercise (an exercise to be able to sleep when the mind is too active as described in ‘Stress to Joy’ book), brain dumps of your ideas, priorities of the day or merely write free flow.

The open space is to invite you to do whatever you desire that day.



5. Thought Provoking Quotes:

Good quotes usually inspire your life and stimulate thinking. Therefore, I have scattered a few of my favorite inspirational quotes throughout the Journal.

 

 

6. Gradual Instructions:

When I wrote in my journal for the first time, I started with only a few words. Over time it evolved as I introduced different prompts and variations.

When I teach this technique to my patients, I start with the basics and gradually add more prompts to deepen the practice.

This journal is designed to guide you in the same way. The prompts expand gradually to help you master each set in your life.

 



7. Other Resources:

Last but not least, I’ve compiled and shared a list of resources that I have developed to benefit you in acquiring the optimum mindset for health and happiness.

If you would like to use these powerful tools, all you have to do is keep this journal or any journal or notebook by your bedside, in your pocket, or your purse.

Every morning, before you get busy with the daily demands of your life, or evening before retiring to bed, pick up the journal and write.


My friend just sent me this note; “I love the Stress to Joy Guided Gratitude Journal. I was thinking about trying a gratitude journal for some time, and I am glad I started here. The thought-provoking quotes and the guided text has motivated me and provided me with a perspective which is helping me express my feelings and focus on the positives. The simple act of journaling has enabled me to see the meaning of events going on around me and helps me create meaning in my own life; as a result, I feel much happier, calmer and more grateful for everything. “

I hope it helps you too and I look forward to hearing from you how it has helped to transform your life.

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For more information about the journal or bulk order please visit https://stresstojoy.com/order-gratitude-journal-special

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Aga Khan Foundation’s Contribution in Society

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Do you know a charitable organization that you are grateful for making a difference in your life?

The charitable organization I am most grateful for is the Aga Khan Foundation. (AKF) It funds many international non-government organizations in 30 countries through Aga Khan Development Network and Aga Khan Universities.

Many people and organizations help us thru our lives and sometimes we don’t realize or acknowledge them enough. Public appreciation and support (whether it is time, knowledge or financial) are some of the ways we can show our gratitude.

My own life has been impacted by AKF in many ways. My mom took me to the Aga Khan Health centers for all my health care needs throughout my childhood.

I went to SMS Aga Khan School for my primary and secondary school with subsidized fees.

I went to the Aga Khan University medical school which gave me a world-class education and allowed me to be where I am today professionally.

When my father got sick, Aga Khan Hospital was the best place to trust with his care.


When I was in Medical School I had a fellow student from a rural area that would have never been able to get an education if it was not for AKF.

I still feel very teary eyed when I remember my friend from Tajikistan. When Tajikistan separated from Russia, their food supply was cut off. She was so afraid that they would all starve, but AKF sent food trucks and saved her, her family, and her community’s lives.  

When I watched this short documentary on this organization, I realized how many people, like me, benefit from their efforts every year.


Therefore I want to express my gratitude to AKF publicly, contribute (a part of income from my work) and share their message.

I want to share their work especially with you because you contribute to their cause indirectly. By supporting me, you are not only helping yourself but also helping someone get an education, health care, get food, electricity, green space, better build environment or get out of poverty or disaster.

So THANK YOU.

Are there organizations that you can send gratitude this season?

Express your gratitude, contribute, and spread the goodness. It will also make you feel good and improve your brain health.

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First Graders List of Gratitude

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When I ask adults what they are grateful, sometimes they struggle.

To help them, I usually give examples of simple things that we take for granted. Once a man said, “but they have been there all my life.”  He didn’t see the reason to count them under the list of gratitude. Many times we don’t realize extraordinariness of the ordinary experiences in our lives and feel the emptiness.

On the other hand, kids have an easier time. They are so cute and see the significance of simple blessings that surround us. I recently had the privilege of being with a few first graders for 15 minutes.  I asked them; “let’s make a list of all the things we are grateful for until your teacher comes. She would be impressed.” I checked if they knew the meaning of the word grateful and they said it means thankful. Here’s the list they came up with the prompt:

TYAF {Thank you, Allah (God) For}.

  1. God
  2. dad – parents
  3. family
  4. Christmas presents
  5. Xbox
  6. Wii ( game)
  7. Legoland
  8. bowling alley
  9. eyes
  10. my little brother (brothers and sisters)
  11. brain
  12. prayers
  13. dog (pets)
  14. world
  15. food
  16. drinks (water and juice)
  17. legs
  18. arms/hands
  19. cars/trucks/buses
  20. teachers
  21. close
  22. shoes
  23. jackets
  24. bed
  25. house
  26. electricity
  27. blankets
  28. Ink/marker/board
  29. table/chairs
  30. forks/spoons/napkins/plates

Then they added their names to the list as they were thankful for themselves.

Inspiring!

Can you come up with at least three things you are grateful for every morning?

If you do, it will enhance your contentment in life. If you don’t practice some positive routine like this, you will be at risk of feeling stress and emptiness.

I have practiced the list of gratitude journal myself for the last 14 years and seen it’s a positive impact on my life. I have witnessed its a powerful impact on the level of health and happiness of many clients who have adopted the practice. Now I am on a mission to help you enjoy its benefit too.

I encourage you to start your list of gratitude practice today.

If you don’t like to write in a journal, open the notes section on your phone and make an entry of 3 words you appreciate in life. It may take less than a minute but can make your whole day feel much more positive. If you like to write in a journal, my upcoming Stress to Joy Guided Gratitude Journal may help you. I have packed it with prompts, inspiring quotes, and provoking ideas to help you immediately shift into a place of gratitude. Pre-order copies for yourself, friends and family today. What could be a better gift this year than the ultimate tool for joy, peace, and contentment?

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Grateful For An Address

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“I am grateful for having an address.”  Answered a patient when I asked what she was grateful for that day. It is my habit to ask that question while I am writing their prescriptions at the end of their session. I looked at her inquisitively.

She told me that as she was homeless for two months, she did not have an address to get her mail. Further, she explained to me that as soon as she settled in the housing she found, she went to the post office to update her address. She still had a daunting task of calling all her creditors. They may have charged her penalties for not paying in time because she did not get her mail for those months.

Have you ever thought about that?

Are you grateful for having an address?

A place where you can get your mail. A place where you can go to bed when you want to. ( She told me that when you are sleeping on other people’s coaches, you can’t go to bed when you want. You have to fit your host’s schedule. ) A home where you feel relatively safe. (She shared that when you are sleeping in a car, you are always on alert because anybody can come and rob you, hurt you, or ask you to move).

I realized how many things we take for granted.

Therefore I write my gratitude journal every day and have done it for 14 years. I have seen its benefit, and therefore I am on a mission to educate, motivate and spread happiness.

When you write a gratitude journal every day, you can bring attention to simple things in life that you may have taken for granted. Once you bring those to your awareness your focus shifts from what is missing in life to what is there in life. You can feel more content. When something is wrong, you are hurting, or things are not going to your desire, your mind keeps focusing on that. If you have a practice of writing a gratitude journal, you can shift your mood from the negative to positive every day. I think this is the easiest and cheapest way to enhance contentment in life.

Do you practice gratitude journaling? If yes, please share your success story on how it helps you.

If not, start today. Begin with the primary prompt of “I am grateful for” ( IGF in short), and list all the things for which you are thankful.

Once you get used to doing that, you can add other prompts.

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Unique Ways To Build Confidence

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Recently, Pat, a 30 yr old woman shared her frustration with me; “How can I be confident and affirm that I have the best job possible when I am receiving only rejections to all my job applications?”

She was trying to recover from her condition and had made a vision board to help her visualize. Pat said, “When you are facing so many problems, how can you build your confidence and believe that you could achieve your dreams?”

She was going through a tough time and feeling guilty and focused on regrets in her life. She lacked confidence. Many people have similar troubles with low confidence and difficulty visioning success when they are going through a tough time.

You may or may not be going thru a difficult time but you may be just thinking about your New Year’s resolutions as the year ends. This is a good time to reflect on what goals you were able to achieve in the past year, what great surprises came your way that you did not anticipate at the beginning of the year and what you would like to achieve in the New Year.

This unique technique from the new “Stress to Joy Guided Gratitude Journal” may help you.

 

Let’s review it in two steps of the technique I call, advanced gratitude:

  1. Achievement
  2. Vision

Grateful Achievement.

When Pat faced the above dilemma, I advised her to add a Grateful Achievement and change her vision board to Grateful Vision using advanced gratitude concept. To do that, she took a manila folder with two plain sheets of paper pasted/stapled on each side. One side was her Grateful Achievement, and the other side was Grateful Vision.

For Grateful Achievement she wrote:

I am grateful that I was able to

  • Pass high school
  • Win a championship in athletics
  • Become a mother to two beautiful children
  • Write a resume and give good interviews

I’ll share what she wrote on the other side – in the next blog on describing Grateful Vision.

Before doing this, she was feeling like a total failure. She could not feel the confidence that she could get out of the hole she was in at that time, with all the legal and financial difficulties.

The next time I saw her, she had a big smile on her face. Her energy was palpable. She felt confident yet humble.  When she did this as part of her daily practice, her goals remained in front of her, and she kept on taking deliberate steps towards her goal. She was close to achieving success.

You may be asking, why Grateful Achievement?

You can easily accomplish results with a simple achievement board. I learned Achievement Boards from John Assaraf, where you post all the symbols of successes you have achieved in life till now.

I tried it but had some difficulty due to my past belief system. You see, I grew up in a culture where talking about your achievements is considered negative. Therefore, I try to be humble which is a high virtue in my value system. However, when someone is too humble, it affects their confidence and ability to express where it is needed, like in a job interview.

When you add ‘I am grateful that I was able to achieve’ in front of the list of your achievements, I feel the confidence with humility. I can be the best I could be. Therefore, I use Grateful Achievement.

If you do this exercise, you will also be able to feel confident without arrogance. Combine it with Grateful Vision and you will have a tool that will help you get closer and closer to your success with confidence and humility.

Go ahead make your list of achievements and say I am grateful that I was able to achieve….

Don’t forget the simple achievements. They may be simple for you, but for many people in the world, they may not be.

For instance, when I taught this technique to primary grade kids, one of them shared her goal of understanding a certain math concept. She said I don’t think I can ever achieve that goal. I asked her if she understood some other math concepts and she listed many. She minimized her simple achievement, saying it is not a big deal. Everyone knows that. Yet it was a big deal for a kid from lower grade sitting next to her. Furthermore, there are many kids who may not even have the chance to learn those concepts as they don’t or can’t go to school.

It made sense to her. Once she listed her gratitude for being able to learn and know the learned concepts, she felt more confident that she will be able to achieve the goal of learning other concepts she was having difficulty with.

You could also be grateful for all the simple things that you may take for granted or say, it is not a big deal.

Acknowledge them, offer gratitude for them and it will help you to build confidence and to be able to achieve the goals you would like to achieve.

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Dr. Rozina

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