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You Can Do Big Things

Even When You Feel Small.

Do you ever feel too small or too insignificant or not good enough for doing something important? Many people do. When you feel that way, how can you overcome the feeling?

I had a recent experience of not feeling good enough. I felt the fear that someone may laugh or ridicule me. This happened when I stood in front of a camera for the first time to record the videos for my online course; “Stress to Joy.”

Talking to people one-on-one is no problem for me. Talking to a group of people gives me some butterflies in my stomach, but once I get started and connect with the audience, I get in my zone. Talking to a camera when you can not see your audience and you don’t know who is going to be watching you and how they’re going to judge you was nerve-wracking.

I believe that the courage is not the absence of fear but it is the ability to feel the fear and do it anyways. So standing in front of that camera, I was repeating that statement from Susan Jeffers book “Feel the fear. do it anyways” to myself; “Feel the fear, do it anyways”. Although I was doing it, my body was tense, I was talking fast and I appeared nervous. My coach, Ben and Suzanne Patwa saw that and helped me. They reminded me of my intention of helping millions of people be happier and helped me visualize the impact I could have by doing what I am doing.

It helped me calm down and brought the image of a firefly to my mind. You may ask, what does Firefly have to do with fear of being in front of the camera? Let me share the association I have in my mind. The image comes from a poem I learned in my childhood from a popular Urdu/Persian poet, Allama Iqbal. He wrote a lot of inspirational poetry that has contributed to my value system significantly. In his poem, “Hamdardi, he describes the story of a bird and a firefly. The bird spends the whole day looking for food for its babies and it gets dark.  The bird can’t find its way home and starts crying. As it is asking for help, a firefly shows up from somewhere. The bird is unsure but firefly says, “Although I am a small insect, I am blessed with the gift of light.  I will shine your path. I will help you reach your home.

That day in front of that camera, I felt like the firefly. Although small and insignificant in some ways, I do have a gift that can light someone’s path.

That image helped me stay connected with my inner gift of knowledge and experience. It allowed me to bring my light to shine someone’s path.

I found my light. What is your light?

Image of Firefly, focusing on purpose and end goal helped me overcome my fear. What is helping you overcome your fears and bringing your light to shine on people around you?

Share your inspirations. You might shine someone’s path.

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Dr. Rozina

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# 1 asset for feeling and looking good that we forget to use.

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# 1 asset for feeling and looking good that we forget to use.  

Have you heard the phrase ” the first impression is the last impression.” When you hear that, what concept comes to your mind? Is it how you dress, your hairstyle , makeup, jewelry, or accessories? I think all these contribute to the first impression, but the most important factor that impacts the viewer is your  body language and especially your facial expression.

 

Have you noticed that when you see a person who has a soft smiling expression on their face, even if they don’t say anything, you feel comfortable? I am not talking about the cunning or manipulative smile. I am referring to a genuine soft smile. Compare that to a person who has an angry/rude expression. Which one makes you feel better, smiley or angry expression?

 

One day when my kid commented, “Mom you look so serious. Are you upset? Are you sad?” Well, I was not angry or sad. I realized that my facial expression is like that when I am thinking about something. What can I do? My initial reaction was “Oh that is what my face is like, and I can’t do anything to change that.” Really ???

 

Later, I asked myself. Can I not do anything about it? It reminded me of a discussion I had with a patient of mine. It had touched me, and I still benefit from it. She has passed away since then, and I want to give a tribute to her by sharing this story.

 

She had read about a “half moon smile” in a book and shared that she has been trying to bring half moon smile on her face every morning. It was helping her improve her mood. We laughed about it together as literally half moon smile would be ok on a emoji, but just imagine it on your face, won’t it look more like yawning. We decided that “Crescent Smile” was a better name for the smile.

 

So now, when I realize that my facial muscles are tight, even when I’m alone, thinking or praying; I try to bring “crescent moon smile” on my face. I feel it also brings a twinkle to my eyes. As it softens the tension in the muscles, it is also called a “Soft Smile.” When I smile like that, It relieves the pressure; I feel good, and people around me feel good too. In my book “Stress To Joy” I mention that people spend thousands of dollars on their looks, clothing, hairstyle, even on botox and plastic surgeries but one free accessory that they often forget to wear is their smile. My friend Jean sent me an email after reviewing the book. She wrote that she was so inspired by that statement that she placed a smiley face sticker on her computer. It reminds her to smile every time she turns on her computer. I think that is the same reason people put pictures of their pets or children on their screen saver to bring a smile on their faces but many times they forget to pay attention to those pictures.

 

So why don’t you also try? Put some reminders around you and every time you become aware, just soften your face muscles and bring that Soft Crescent Smile on your face. Notice how you feel, how people around you react differently and then share your experience with me.

 

Once you try that, you can take it one step further. When you see someone, even when you are passing by (a coworker or a friend or a family member), look in their eyes with a crescent smile on your face and a twinkle in your eyes. That would tell that person that you are happy to see them. If it is appropriate, say “Hi, How are you? Stay there for 30 more seconds to hear and see their response. Leave by saying a greeting with intention even when it is simple “Have a good day” How do you feel when someone gives you that eye contact, a smile and a greeting? Doesn’t your day gets a little brighter and your burdens a little lighter? Experiment a little and observe how people react when you give them that smile. You may already be doing that, in that case continue. Do it intentionally and observe.

 

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Have a smiley day.

To your Health and Happiness,

Dr. Rozina

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The tools and techniques I teach have proven to be highly successful for improving health and happiness for many but they are not intended to replace treatment. I cannot take any liability, as engaging with me online is for empowering you with education only and does not establish a treatment relationship. Please consult your personal healthcare provider for specific treatment recommendations.


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